Monday, February 14, 2011

What Real Romance Looks Like (with bonus giveaway)

My husband and I were college sweethearts. From the beginning, it was a case of opposites attracting. He's from Africa, I'm from Long Island. He was, not so much. Sixteen years and three children later, we're still in love.

Story book romance is not his strong suit (Pbbsst! That's what novels are for). But he shows me he loves me in a million mundane little ways which are far more important.

Ten Reasons I Love my Goofball (in no particular order):

1. He's promised to take my embarrassing secrets to the grave- including that unspeakable incident when I was carrying the twins.

2. He loves my parents as much as me (sometimes he loves them more than me).

3. He packs my lunch every day and cooks dinner every night.

4. He's not afraid of dirty jobs. Like holding my hair back when I vomit, changing a blowout diaper, or buying feminine products at the grocery store.

5. He loves God.

6. He will get out of the shower to come kill a spider in the bedroom.

7. He gives money to homeless people (and if he didn't have to worry about the boys or me, he'd probably offer them a room too).

8. He'll shovel the drive or mow the grass for our elderly neighbors.

9. He teaches our sons how to be men.

10. No matter how often I break out in crazy, he remains even tempered.

Want to hear more stories about real romance? Check out these love stories from my favorite book bloggers. Today's the last day to enter the giveaway for a $10 Amazon gift card. Update: The winner of the gift card is Amber S!

Bonus Giveaway:
Using the clues in the photo above, name that year!

I'll send a copy of Julie Lessman's A Passion Most Pure* to one lucky guesser. Winner will be chosen Saturday.

*The book in this giveaway comes from my personal shelf and was dropped during the recent snowpocalypse. Perfectly readable, but has wavy pages.


  1. Okay, I am terrible at years, but I'm going to take a stab at this because I would L-O-V-E to get my hands on a book of Julie's - I have yet to read anything by her! So sad! :'-(

    LOL! Anyways! I'm just going to take a stab in the dark...since you said you were in college, and its been 16 years.....1976?

    Btw, CUTE picture of you two!! ;-)

    ~ Katy

  2. LOL!!! Sorry Katy, not 1976. Not by a long shot. But you can guess again! :)

  3. You guys sound a lot like my husband and opposites and no story book romance. As for the year, I'm going to say 1993 (my husband had that same high top fade!)

  4. Awe, Joy that has to be the SWEETEST thing I have ever read! I love the squishing a spider one. :) What an incrediable story of how you two met!! Thanks for sharing. :D

    Oh, I already own Julie's book, thanks! :D

  5. I'm going to guess 1992. I love love love your "10 reasons I love my goofball!" It truly is the little things that make up the whole love story isn't it?

  6. Joy, So sorry! I missunderstood the question - guess that's what I get for trying to do math in the early mornings! *blush* Hope I didn't offend you! lol, I totally read that wrong!

    But if I could guess again, I'd say 1995

  7. Wow. I love this. What a beautiful post. And look how cute you guys were/are! I LOVE it!

    Thanks for sharing!

    Happy Valentine's Day!

  8. Love the pic and this beautiful tribute to your marriage! Blessings!

  9. That's a fantastic pic, Joy. And I love your list. What a great way to commemorate Valentine's Day! And what great reasons you love your husband. Thanks for sharing!

  10. @Shan Yup, the high top fade. Those were the days. LOL.

    @Casey, thanks. I have a severe phobia. DH has been teaching the boys to take over when he's not around. That's one way he's training them to be men. They kill bugs for me too.

    @Julie- That's exactly it, the little things make the love story. Perfect sentiment.

    @Katy- No offense at all! You're in the ball park now.

    Thanks so much for stopping by Renee Ann, Sarah and Debbie! :)

  11. I'm going to guess 1994. I enjoyed reading your reasons you love your husband. I'd love to win Julie's book.


  12. This is so sweet, Joy! I agree with Casey--that's so cute that he'll come kill the spiders for you! ;) I had an incident in the shower this past summer with a spider...I had to have my mom come and kill it for me. ;) Ughhh, spiders!!!

    Anyway, thank you so much for participating in the party!


    P.S. No need to enter me; I'm the proud owner of a copy of A Passion Most Pure. :)

  13. Amber, I was just about to email you! You won the gift card! Congrats.

  14. What a sweet story! And I remember the rolled up jeans...those were cool way back when! I remember sporting the look a few times myself, probably along with some hightop sneakers (oh, the horrors!).

    If I had to guess a year, I'd say 1993. :o) No need to enter me, though...that's one great book that already has a slot on my keeper shelf. :o)

  15. Hi Joy, thanks for visiting my blog :-)
    Your hubby sounds like a sweetie, especially if he's protecting you from evil spiders!

  16. Awww....this was a sweet post!! I love your list. If I had a phobia of anything, it would be spiders(well, and windows), so I can greatly appreciate that one!!

    And I just LOVE that you said this....

    Story book romance is not his strong suit (Pbbsst! That's what novels are for). But he shows me he loves me in a million mundane little ways which are far more important.

    Those million mundane little ways ARE what's important!!! ;) I think this is a reminder all of us wives need sometimes.

    I remember those same trends. My sister graduated high school in '95, so I think she had them more than me, since I was never very trendy. :s (I already have Julie's books, so I'm not technically guessing there). :)

  17. Your hubby sounds like a keeper for sure! Gotta love a man who remains even tempered no matter what!

    My guess is 1998.

  18. My guess is 1994, and I love that pictture, you've not changed one bit! Love the list too, he sounds amazing. More love and blessings to you both.

  19. Cute! What a nice story! Didn't know you were from LI too. What part? I'm grew up in Roosevelt, then lived in Baldwin after I got married before leaving NY.

  20. @Christy- You're close, good guess.

    @Charmaine- Thanks for the visit!

    @Tammy- Yup, it's the little things that make the marriage.

    @Ellie- I have given him a run for his money too. :P

    @Myne- Thanks!

    @Patricia- Hey another Lawwnng Islander! I grew up on the east end, Westhampton Beach area.
    I live in Western NY now.


  21. ALRIGHT! Go me! Thanks so much Joy! 1992 was the year that my "Joy" was born!

  22. That is adorable! I am seriously going to add #6 to my future husband qualifications list. ;)


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